How to boost low self-esteem

November 13, 2015 by  
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Human beings are complex and complicated. When people come to my consulting room one of the first things I have to do is create a map of their internal psychological world.  When I create a psychological map I almost always find a problem with low self-esteem and therefore help to increase self-esteem is needed. This is especially true if a mood disorders such as depression accompanies anxiety and stress.

Low self-esteem

This video film outlines the three options/choices you have if you struggle with low self-esteem and it includes a startlingly simple question you can ask yourself that will basically tell you everything you need to know if you feel down or anxious.

I have had the video transcribed in case you want to also be able to read it. The transcript is below.

Let me see if I can make this issue more real so that it resonates with you. To determine if help with low self-esteem would be useful to you ask yourself this question… and this is a question I ask my clients repetitively. ‘What is the most negative belief you have about yourself’? Well sometimes people say, My feet are too big and I say, ‘no that’s not what it is.’

Commonly people say things like, I’m worthless, I’m disgusting, I’m no good, I’m unlovable, I’m a failure, I’m a fraud, I’m useless, I’m stupid. These are very negative beliefs to hold about yourself. And if you hold one of these beliefs it’s a very distressing thought to have. It’s a distressing piece of information to carry with you and it always causes a problem by decreasing your self-esteem.

If you recognize one of these negative beliefs as being applicable to you or if you ask yourself the question and you realize that you have a similar negative belief, then it’s difficult to live a fully satisfactory life. Once you have recognized your most negative belief you have basically given yourself three choices.

The first choice and the most commonly taken is to – ignore it. If you ignore your problems with low self- esteem you think it might go away. If you ignore it you can carry on as if it doesn’t exist. You can put it behind you and get on with your life. The trouble is that ignoring it won’t make it go away. It just puts it a little out of sight, so that you don’t have to look at it but it still always exerts its influence.

It’s like having another moon spinning around the earth exerting its gravitational force. Every now and then the extra moon and the current moon line up and we’re going to have massive gravitational forces disrupting life. You can ignore self-esteem issues, to a degree, for a period of time… maybe. And then it’s going to be distressing. It’s going to be upsetting. It’s going to cause things to go wrong. Ignoring it is a commonly adopted strategy but it’s not very useful.

The second most common choice when thinking about low self-esteem is to accept that your negative belief is true; accept that the most negative thing you believe about yourself is correct.

So, if I believed that my most negative belief is that I’m a failure, then I will accept as true that I am a failure. And commonly people who are depressed will sit in my consulting room and say, ‘I am a failure.’ ‘Like 100%?’ ‘Yes.’

That acceptance of the most negative belief that you have about yourself typically goes along with a substantial mood disorder and we can call it depression or anxiety depending on if it’s an anxiety provoking negative belief or a depressing one.

The first two options out of the three possible options are not very useful in the longer term and will definitely cause a problem at some point. The third choice is a bit more interesting, however. The third option when looking at low self esteem help is to ask yourself these questions:

‘Is my most negative belief about myself objectively accurate?’

‘Is my most negative belief about myself true?

‘Does my most negative belief about myself stand up to scrutiny?’

‘For instance if my most negative belief is that I’m a failure I would habitually say, ‘I am a failure.’

‘If I was doing my own therapy at the same time I would say, ‘do you work?’ ‘yes I do work.’

‘Do you hold down a job and get a salary?’ ‘Yes.’

‘Can you drive?’ ‘Yes.’

‘Are you able to maintain a relationship?’ ‘Yes.’

‘Are you interested in things?’ ‘Yes.’

‘Have you achieved any academic successes?’ ‘Yes.’

‘So are you really a failure?’

The question is this. When people say, ‘I am a failure.’ They don’t mean I have failed in being able to make a cheese sandwich they say, ‘I am a failure.’ This is a global interpretation of their whole being.

Looking at my most negative belief objectively can I sustain the view that ‘I am a total failure?’ No, I can’t and when people say, ‘I am a failure,’ which is a common thing for people to say, it’s hard for them to sustain it because it doesn’t match the evidence.
The evidence is not actually that they’re a failure. The case is that they feel a failure. And challenging this distorted emotion is part of the third choice.

There is usually a disconnection between your feelings of low self-esteem and reality. And you’ll find that this is true if you inspect it a little bit. There’s a disconnection between what you feel and what is demonstrably true based on the evidence of the world in which you live.

So on the one hand we have, this is what I know to be true and on the other hand we have this is how I feel. These are not the same things.
How you feel is what’s causing the most negative belief that you have about yourself to have energy.
What you feel is not always well calibrated to the world you live in and that is why either ignoring it or accepting it is the wrong solution to this problem of low self-esteem. The first two choices simple mean that nothing will change. How you feel will not change unless you challenge it and change it.

So what we have to do if there is a problem with low self-esteem and we want to change this is to take the third choice:. Use CBT Therapy to Help Low Self Esteem.

As part of getting self-esteem help you will need to examine your most negative belief about yourself. You have to examine its structure, you have to become interested in your problems with self-esteem and then challenge it and change it. We have to take this feeling of, I am disgusting, I am not good enough, I’m worthless, I’m unlovable, I’m a fraud, I’m a failure, I’m stupid, and we have to challenge this feeling to make it account for itself and bring it in line with what we know to be true because we can demonstrate it to be true.

I might not feel very clever but I’m not globally stupid. This negative belief is over generalized and De-contextualised. I might not feel good enough but the evidence is that I’m good enough in many domains of my life. Applying this acid test of reality is part of the process of cognitive behavioral therapy. This is CBT therapy.

When we challenge the feeling and we make it change to be more in line with what we know to be true. Because what we know to be true is…well… true.

Our feelings are not a good guide to reality in a lot of circumstances and in particularly when we have very negative beliefs and feelings about ourselves. So the third option of using CBT therapy to get self-esteem help means challenging and changing the most negative beliefs that we have about ourselves.

If we don’t challenge and change them they will continue to exert a powerful influence over us and they will distort and eventually ruin the course of our lives. It’s inevitable that they will do that because if you believe something very negative about yourself it will affect the course of your life. Now, my proposition is this, It doesn’t have to do that!

There are three choices that you can take, choice one is you can ignore it, choice two, you can accept it and choice three – challenge it and change it by using CBT for low self-esteem.

If you want to take option three there are many paths that will take you from where you are to where you want to get to, which I would anticipate is to feel good, to have a reasonable level of self-esteem and to be accurately calibrated to your skills and attributes and to the world around you. This gives you the best opportunity to achieve the best life that you can have.

If you want to engage with the third option which is boosting your self-esteem to move forward while adopting a proactive and constructive attitude to your mental health then please check out the CBT System Mood Control.

Depression, anxiety and stress are massively common human problems. The sad thing is they don’t have to be. We have within us the necessary tools and resources, with some guidance from a system like CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) and Mood Control, to be able to resolve these. All we have to do is take the third choice.

Mood Control is a successful depression treatment and anxiety therapy that provides self-esteem help. Thanks for taking the time to watch and listen. I hope to see you on the inside of Mood Control and let’s get on this journey together.

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How do I know I am anxious?

October 16, 2015 by  
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How do I know I am anxious?


If you spend time with your mind focused on these issues then you are likely to be anxious. It is really worth recognizing the fact of being anxious instead of ignoring it. Because whilst ignoring it feels like you are doing something, in reality you are only perpetuating the problem.

Seven varieties of anxiety

Anxiety can be never ending. It can constantly find ways to capture your attention and take you to terrible places. For many people anxiety is focused on a few specific worries. I will list the most common ones and then offer some tools you can use to take back control from anxiety.

The LIST Colour

1. What if I get trapped?

No one wants to experience being trapped. It seems the most horrible of things to happen. How often do you actually get trapped? You may imagine that you are trapped on a plane or a train. But the truth is you wouldn’t want to be outside of the plane would you? Trapped is usually a fear of not being able to control yourself, in particular your body. The mind focuses on the idea of being trapped because that is usually the most frightening thing we can imagine. We are never trapped unless we believe we are and in most of those cases it is for our own safety; planes trains and automobiles.

2. What if I worry and get anxious?

I understand that my problem is that I am anxious about being anxious. So even before something happens I am worrying that I will get anxious. So I do!

3. What if something goes wrong?

I don’t know what will go wrong and that’s the problem. When will it happen? The feeling is so strong it feels inevitable that something will get out of my control and go horribly wrong.

4. What if I can’t control things?

The world feels uncontrollable and incredibly complex and my ability to control things seems so small by comparison. I expect terrible things to happen and I won’t be able to control them enough to keep everyone safe.

5. What if I offended someone?

No one wants to deliberately offend and that is why it rarely happens but if you worry about being offensive then you are taking steps that go above and beyond the call of duty to avoid this happening. This turns a normal desire to be friendly into a worry about being offensive. And paradoxically the concern you have feeds to worry.

6. What if people can see inside me?

People will see I am not comfortable and they will know I don’t belong or I don’t know what I am talking about. They can see I look stupid.

7. What if I upset them?

Why didn’t they text back straight away? Was it something I said or did?
I can’t bear the thought of being judged
I would cringe and want the world to swallow me if I made a mistake and I thought someone was judging me for it.

How to make anxiety history

Don’t simply tolerate anxiety. It is not inevitable it is simply a trick of the mind. A dead end of thought that you don’t know how to get out of. But you can get out of it and it’s not that hard with the right guidance and a little bit of effort on your part. I know anxiety feels terrible and because it feels so terrible it seems impossible to defeat. In my clinical practice I have treated many hundreds of people with anxiety and through using my online tools many thousands of people have been successfully been treated for anxiety.

I want to start you off on the journey away from anxiety by having you watch A few selected films I have made and these will both inform you and deliver tools you can use in your everyday life.





Choose the link that seems most relevant to you.

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I am troubled mostly by physical and panic symptoms

I am mostly troubled by thoughts and worry


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How to rewire your brain to remove intense anxiety and depression

September 7, 2015 by  
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You can rewire your brain

It seems like there are risks everywhere

There are so many options and choices in life that often we can’t see the wood for the trees and this makes us feel confused and disoriented. Lack of focus makes choices blur into one another, nothing seems clear nor doable. Intense anxiety can also feel like this. With intense and prolonged anxiety your brain is constantly trying to see all possibilities and to assess them for risk while travelling down each risk path to see what might happen, if it were to come true. Then of course each perceived risk must be managed because how could you bare it if you had foreseen a disaster but did nothing about it? Well that would be intolerable, wouldn’t it?
Suppose you could rewire your brain to stop all this from happening. In essence what would it be like to stop being anxious? Imagine what clarity and focus feels like! Can you remember that?
I know how you can do this. I know how you can reduce anxiety to a point where you forget to be anxious.
I have helped hundreds of people to achieve this. Many of them I have never met! Nevertheless there is a system that you can use, almost like a recipe and over time it will rewire your brain to give you less and less anxiety until you forget to be anxious. It is often in 95% of cases that anxiety and depression go together and so what I am writing holds true for depression as much as anxiety.

I have recorded this audio podcast that gives you more information about how to rewire your brain.


Mood Control will help rewire your brain


How change happens

I often start a therapy session by asking my clients what has happened over their week. Once they have been through the system, they think for a moment and often say “nothing really a normal week!”
I probe further; “anxiety or panic?”
And they say “oh I forgot about that, err no nothing this week at all.” That is what we are after; the complete rewiring of the brain to remove anxiety from your everyday experience.

Learn more about Mood Control

The facts

These are the facts. You can also achieve this state of normality where anxiety is a distant memory and where depression is a thing of the past. But you have to put some effort in to achieve it. Let’s say you have been anxious for about a year, ask yourself this question: How much of my time has been spent on feeling anxious? What might your answer be, 20%, 40%, 60% of your time? The immediate answer I often hear from someone who experiences intense anxiety is “I am anxious 100% of the time, all the time!”

How to become an expert at being anxious

If you want to become expert at something you have to practice. If you have spent a significant percentage of your time being anxious that is called practice! You have practiced being anxious and you have become very good at it. That is why you have anxiety as a constant companion in your life. In essence you have rewired your brain to give you intense anxiety.
The obverse is also true. If you practice challenging your anxiety then you will become good at not being anxious. You will feel safer and more at ease with yourself. You will have rewired your brain to focus on feeling safe, good and at ease. And these are the opposite of intense anxiety.

How long does it take to rewire your brain?

I have observed from years of clinical practice that it doesn’t matter how long you have been anxious you can still return to normality, calm and peace. But only if you follow this rule of thumb. If you have mild anxiety it takes about 6-8 weeks of effort to rewire your brain. If you have moderate or intense anxiety it takes about 10-12 weeks to rewire your brain. There is no way around it. Progress requires some effort. There is no ‘magic’ quick fix that can rewire your brain for you.
Following this rule of thumb I expect everyone to make changes in the structure of their brain. Some will take much less time and a few may take a bit more time but effort equals outcome in the endeavor. Everyone who puts the work in will progress and feel better. It takes effort over a short program of work, which includes doing a little bit on most days to rewire your brain out of anxiety. Then you are free.

Choose your future

Pick a notable point in the future, let’s say, few months away and imagine how great it will feel to be free of anxiety and depression for that event; Christmas, a family holiday, a long vacation. You can choose how your life will go. But you have to choose, right? Otherwise nothing changes, and another year passes.
Being able to focus on what’s really important is a huge advantage in any area of life but it is doubly important where a psychological problem is concerned. Because these are some of the hardest things to change. You can’t grasp intense anxiety in your hand, you can’t see it, taste it, touch it or see it. You can only feel it. This is why it’s so hard to help yourself. Without a map to guide you and the system to follow you won’t know what to do next.
Without the system you will founder and give up. Because it is easy to get lost in the forest if you don’t have a map.
The system I have developed to rewire your brain out of anxiety is called Mood Control follow the map it provides and do the exercises within it and you will change your life.
Caution: If you aren’t ready to change your life; rewire your brain and become free from the grip of anxiety and depression then it is probably better not to proceed. It would be better not to start than give up before completion as that just pushes your mood down further.

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Don’t go off the deep end…maybe

October 3, 2014 by  
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Just because you don’t know where you are, don’t go off the deep end! Or Sometimes you have to take the plunge! But how do you decide?

The only reliable way of making a decision that tells you what to do is by listening to who you are! That includes what your inner goals and desires are, what drives and motivates you and what you need in order to have a good and productive life.

You are your best guide to what is good for you but, as with advice from another person, you have to listen to it for it to have any effect.

It turns out that it can be pretty hard to listen to yourself and believe and accept what you find there. There is a lot of noise that gets in the way of your authentic inner voice.

But what is authentic anyway? How do you know your inner voice is authentic?

Here are the two keys to recognizing your authentic voice:-

Stop and listen to what you want.

So often we jump to what we think others want or expect from us that it can be hard to stop and pay attention to our own desires. If you’re the kind of person who cares deeply about other people then you’ll know what I mean by this. But, you are entitled to have your own desires and they don’t have to be compatible with those of the other people you mix with. You don’t have to conform all of the time. You are allowed to be yourself. It may be that one of the fundamental ingredients of a happy life is connection with your own desires.

Don’t take the story further

When you imagine something happening do you tend to elaborate it further and further until it turns into catastrophe or disaster? This is one of the basic components of worry. The ability to elaborate beyond the facts into a world full or hurt and pain takes you to places that don’t and never will exist. This propels you into fantasy outcomes that will never happen. You are going to need to stop doing this because it steals you from actual reality in the ‘here and now’ and puts you into your ‘head virtual reality fantasy generator’. This separates you from the world and your own needs within it. When you disconnect from ‘reality’ you become vulnerable to all sorts of terrible things…most of which will never happen. I like Mark Twain’s comment below.

“I’ve lived through some terrible things in my life, some of which actually happened.”

Mark Twain

Many of the terrible things we imagine never actually happen.

Many of the terrible things we imagine never actually happen.

Be prepared to say no to what you might not want.

Like many skills in life the skill of being able to discern what you want out of life is one that takes some practice to hone. Many people neglect putting enough effort into this for it to become a genuine life skill. Therefore the answer is to practice having an opinion, sometimes even if you don’t have a strong one.

Trying to please everyone is pointless as it only delays the time when you must be yourself and own your own desires.  Trying to please someone who does not have your best interests at heart (but their own) often ends up being abusive towards you.

Have an alternative already prepared.

I have coined a phrase that I think nicely sums up how we get ourselves into trouble. It is:-

‘Don’t take the path you don’t want to follow.’

What it means is that you need to stop putting attention into a life path that you don’t want to take leading to a destination you wouldn’t wish on yourself.  But do put effort into a life path you do want to take and which will yield a goal you can actively and positively work towards and achieve. Which translates to have a plan already worked out.

All of this means that you have choice. You can exercise choice in two ways. One way is to actively make a choice while the second is to passively accept the result of not making a choice.

You choose!

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Find out how to stop feeling bad

March 13, 2014 by  
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The film below called self sabotage with the bad feelings generator explains everything in more detail. If you identify with anything that is written here then you will recognize the constant force of this process to pushing your happiness down.

If you suffer from worry, stress, anxiety or depression have you ever wondered why bad feelings never seem to end? It is as if there is a well of bad feelings and buckets of them just keep getting pulled up.  Or as I often think of it, it’s like there is a battery of bad feelings that gets recharged over night and then discharges bad feelings into your system throughout the day.

If this is your experience then you know how puzzling it can feel to have day after day of bad feelings without any obvious reason for them. So where does this constant streams of bad feelings come from?


Self sabotage

First let’s take a look at what self sabotage does to you.  No matter what you do it is never good enough. No matter what you experience it is never pleasurable enough, no matter what you try it never delivers what it should.

Are you always  struggling with some form of unfavorable comparison with what you achieve compared to what you feel you should have achieved? Do you struggle with how you should be compared to how you are? What ‘it’ should be like, and what you think others think about you, what you have failed to do compared to what you should have done.If so you have experienced the bad feelings generator in action.

The bad feelings generator is a process that continually makes comparison between your current state and a hypothetical alternative that is better in every way but is usually vague and ill defined.

The bad feelings generator

In my work with numerous clients over many years I have seen a pattern of thinking that seems to me to explain where the bad feelings generator is located and what it looks like. I think that this knowledge gives us a real opportunity to take a long hard look at the bad feelings generator and to really put some effort into  turning it down or even getting rid of it all together.

When you say to yourself ‘I should’, in that instant you are creating an internal dissatisfaction with yourself because in essence you are making yourself feel that you have failed in some way. You did not meet some internal high standard.

You may fool yourself into thinking that it is really only the act of encouraging yourself, or pushing yourself to do better but that is to misinterpret this process. the bad feelings generator only does what it says, it only creates dissatisfaction.  It never gives you action points or pointers to what you can improve your life. The bad feelings generator sabotages your quality of life and your happiness but gives you nothing of value in return. And, because it is simply a process that creates dissatisfaction there is never an end point. That is until you learn to accept yourself for who you are and what you are.


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What is Anxiety?

June 4, 2013 by  
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What is anxiety? Anxiety is a terrible force that destroys your happiness. It puts an edge of fear on every experience and it never seems to be satisfied. Living with anxiety is like always wanting to look over your shoulder; just in case. No evidence ever seems enough to satisfy the need to be sure.


Your attempts to solve the problem of your anxiety causes even bigger problems. Because you probably don’t know why you are anxious it is hard to know how to resolve it. Therefore you will certainly resort to controlling other people, things and processes in order to keep your loved ones safe, yourself safe and protect the future of your family. This does not help!

As the problem is anxiety this means that your brain is overestimating the threat you and your loved ones face. So obviously trying to keep people safe when they are not actually threatened is a useless and counter productive thing to do. The real resolution to anxiety is to challenge the anxiety itself.

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 What is anxiety? –  The thinking part of anxiety is called worry

The thinking part of anxiety is worry. But your whole body is also affected that is why it is hard to settle down and relax. But worry is often seen as the powerful engine of anxiety. Many people think that worrying is a necessary part of staying safe. As if it is essential to think about all possibilities, to look at every angle and to make sure all eventualities have been factored in your planning. WRONG!

Worry is a pointless, repetitive activity that creates more unproductive thinking. Worry is not problem solving it is worry and never helps even though it does keep your mind occupied and while it can feel productive it never really is.

What is anxiety? – The best friend to anxiety is depression

These almost always go together. Not feeling safe with few obvious ways to resolve it is depressing. Being unable to feel safe and secure as you go through life can spoil everything. In my professional life I treat anxiety and its friend depression every day. I know that virtually everyone who suffers from these twins of misery has fallen into the trap of passing though passing some gateways activities that has helped create their problems in the first place.

What is anxiety? – The Five Doors to Anxiety

The Five Doors to Anxiety. You must have passed through at least one of these doors to be where you are now.


Door One: Have you developed an intolerance to uncertainty? Do you NEED to be sure about things to feel safe.  Do you NEED to be in control of processes and people. Would someone call you ‘a control freak’?

Door Two: Have you fallen into the trap of confusing unproductive worry with productive problem solving. Do you go over the same problem over and over again? That’s worry folks!

Door Three: Are you familiar with catastrophic thinking? Will everything be a disaster, will it all turn out for the worst? Disaster and catastrophe is guaranteed to get the attention of your brain. Catastrophic thinking focuses your attention of the numerous (fictitious) reasons you need to be anxious. It just never happens. So your system is constantly on high alert for threat that never comes to pass.

Door Four: Strange as it may seem but you probably avoid emotional upset. Do you avoid confronting emotional problems? Would you prefer to walk away than say something if you feel annoyed, upset or provoked. Do you avoid confrontation because of the unpleasant emotions it might cause? This is avoidance of the normal emotions that flow through life.

Door Five: Do you sometimes think you have a physical problem? Does it seem unbelievable that the things you struggle with could all be caused by anxiety. How can anxiety cause pins and needles in your arms? How can anxiety cause tightness in your chest. How can anxiety make you feel like you are going to collapse?  It does. Because your system remains on red alert for threat your physiological  arousal can go through the roof at the drop of a hat and it can take hours to settle back down again. As you well know this is very unsettling.

 What is anxiety? – The good news about anxiety and depression

If you can go one way through a door you can reverse your journey. You can recover from anxiety and its twin depression. Indeed any anxiety therapy or depression treatment MUST take you back through the doors you have gone through. There is no other way. I recommend CBT therapy as the best way to retrace your steps and move away from anxiety and depression. But whatever therapy you choose you must go back through the doors. I have developed a pretty good way of going back through the doors of anxiety and depression. It is called Mood Control and it will take you  away from anxiety and depression and what is more it will show you how to avoid the doors to anxiety and depression in the future.

I hope you enjoyed the film, What is anxiety?, and now see the truth about how to recover from anxiety.

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Botox as a depression treatment

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When looking for a depression treatment you most likely don’t even consider Botox; that’s for lines and wrinkles, isn’t it? Well, Dermatologist Dr Eric Finzi has published a book arguing that how your face looks plays a role in how you feel.

The connection between facial expression and emotion is not a new idea. Indeed there is quite a bit of research on what is called the ‘facial feedback hypothesis.’

Singer, Dannii Minogue spoke publicly about her use of botox following the death of her best friend and while her sister had breast cancer. She said she felt sad and depressed and didn’t want to look at her face.

Botox as a depression treatment

Why botox is used as a depression treatment

A substantial quantity of research has suggested that the expression of emotion can be changed through a process of feedback from facial muscles. In fact going deeper into the field of body feedback shows it is not only your facial expressions but also your whole body posture that affect how you feel.

The original idea that physical feedback affected emotion was originally proposed by Charles Darwin. But now there is experimental evidence for the validity of this view and of course we have all heard that smiling when you are down is beneficial.

Change your expression; change your mood

botox-as-a-depression-treatmentThe academic research on the facial feedback hypothesis does support the common sense view that changing your facial muscle positions affects your emotions. If you feel down this will be reflected on the canvas of your face. The effect of expressing your emotions on your face seems to be to increase the intensity of the emotion. So if you feel down and you also look down your total experience is of an increased or more intense experience of emotion. Conversely if you feel happy and you also reflect this good mood on your face this will increase the overall experience of happiness.

How Botox works as a depression treatment

The important point that Dr Finzi wants to emphasise is that if you inhibit the facial expression of low mood or depression then it can often reduce the overall intensity of the emotion. Dr Finzi’s proposed solution is to freeze the face with botox to prevent the muscles that create the furrowed eyebrows and frown from functioning. No frown equals lessened experience of low mood.

A different viewpoint

I take no issues with the science used as evidence in Dr Finzi’s book nor do I argue with the facial feedback hypothesis research, but I do take a different viewpoint altogether:

In my view depression is a consequence of something else. It is an outcome not a first cause. Therefore if you treat the outcome with some form of medical intervention then you do not change the cause of the problem.

This is the same argument I have with the seemingly overuse of antidepressant meds. The United States Center for Disease Control andThe Powerful Placebo Effect Prevention has stated that the use of antidepressant drugs has soared nearly 400% since 1988, making the medication the most frequently used by people ages 18-44.

My view is that antidepressants purport to treat depression and anxiety but they only treat the outcome they do not touch the cause of low mood or depression which is why there is a high relapse rate following cessation of these drugs.

In fairness the pharmaceutical industry would state that they believe that depression is a biological problem that results from hypothesised chemical imbalances in the brain. But this remains a hypothesis without conclusive proof of its validity.

Treat the cause

Therefore Dr Finzi;s work and the work of others that it is build follows in the tradition of treating a problem that is caused by something else. Why not treat the actual problem instead?

The most effective depression treatment

botox-as-a-depression-treatment-happy-girlCBT therapy provides the most clinically effective depression treatment.

There are no side effects from CBT therapy and because you learn about the causes of depression and how to treat it you gain something valuable you can keep.

Knowledge and wisdom, these twins will keep you safe and help you steer clear of low mood and depression in the future.

It’s better to stamp on depression by learning what causes it and how to defeat it.

Make it irrelevant to your life journey. Then you won’t have to freeze your face for the whole of your life and you will still be able to smile when you want to.

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No one is immune from depression

March 11, 2013 by  
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A long line of objectively successful people have succumbed to low mood. The latest is actress Shobna Gulati who yesterday revealed she quit Coronation Street because of her battle with depression.

She’s not alone. There have been many articles in the press over the last year featuring celebrities such as Frankie Sandford and Helen Flanagan  talking about their experiences with depression and anxiety problems.

  • At Christmas, actress, Helen Flanagan told a national newspaper that she had considered killing herself in a car crash on the way to the Coronation Street studios.
  • And just last year, Singer, Frankie Sandford spoke to Glamour magazine about her battle with negative thoughts and panic attacks, which escalated, leading to her being hospitalised.

Depression destroys lives and no one is immune.

There are approximately 121,000,000 people suffering from depression throughout the world.

What causes depression?

Depression is often caused by a nagging fear that failure is only around the corner. No matter how much success is achieved the person cannot shake off this fear.

At its heart low self esteem is based on the false belief that you are not good enough. Not simply not good enough in what you do, that would be a lot more manageable. No, the belief that you are not good enough as a person. You are unworthy and maybe even unlovable.

If you achieve success it is only through luck and you expect to be found out and exposed for what you believe you really are at any moment. A part of you cannot believe you have not been seen as the fraud you feel you are.

Battling depression in the public eye

If you are at all in the public eye and anyone makes a derogatory comment about you it can be crushing. While in reality it is just a throw away comment by a viewer or follower it can seem like they have somehow seen into your soul and discerned the truth. If they can see it then surely everyone else can also see it. And yet they seem not to.

The tension of waiting to be exposed and your inner feelings seen by all is very tiring. This can cause a stress that swings you from hoping you may actually be okay as you are to truly believing the most horrible and negative things you can imagine about yourself.

Often in the end it seems easier and a lot less trouble to just walk away. That way you have the relief of knowing that the imminent danger of exposure is further back and therefore more manageable. But it can make it harder to re-engage again because staying at home with the curtains shut feels a lot safer. As we age it feels like taking the ‘chance’ of exposure again has too high a price tag.

Anxiety and Depression Treatment

Sometimes counselling is not enough. What is needed is a CBT Therapy that challenges and changes the distorted and inaccurate negative beliefs we all hold but which sometimes seem to ruin our experiences.

Cognitive Behavioural  Therapy (CBT therapy) is put forward by the National Institute for Health and Clinical Excellence (NICE) as the psychological treatment of choice for mental disorders such as anxiety and depression.

Recovery rates from CBT therapy are impressive with up to 70% of sufferers achieving significant clinical gains over the course of a treatment program for both depression and anxiety.

Mood Control CBT System

When you have anxiety problems or depression you may want anxiety therapy or depression treatment immediately, in your own home.

This is why I created, the Mood Control CBT System which is an affordable membership program which delivers the full  personalised CBT therapy experience straight to you in your home via the internet on your personal Mood Control dashboard. Learn more.


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