Comparisons can kill
Humans are always making comparisons; it is one of the ways we judge ourselves, compare ourselves to others and place ourselves within our context and culture. If you feel down or have had depression treatment in the past, have anxiety problems or suffer from stress, then it may be that the comparator process is being overly negative and unhelpful.
In many years of delivering CBT therapy I cannot think of an instance when a client has not, at some point, made a negative comparison between themselves and another person, the regularity of this first directed my attention to the comparison process. It is as if every aspect of our lives has to be periodically judged as worthy. And yet this is not a dysfunctional process. Comparison is simply a fact of life. But, when you use the comparator process to be hard on yourself like:- ‘I’ll bet everyone else can do better than me’, or ‘no one else feels that way’, or even, ‘if they really knew me they would see I was horrible’ then I am sure you can see that the process is not working as well as it might.
This film explains how the normal comparator process can be subverted towards negativity and unhelpful behaviours.