When people start to use Panic Pit Stop, Mood Control, all the other kinds of programs in the DrPurves.Online system, what happens is quite quickly they go.
Well, actually I don’t feel like anxious anymore, I’m not so depressed. So, what do I need to do? Like, how do I continue to move forward? And so I’ve just had a really fascinating conversation with the client who was just seeing this thing and I thought I plot it out for you. So, you can kind of see what the actual work is. If you think you’re working on anxiety and depression you are but actually you’re working on something which is a little bit deeper than that. So, I put it into three levels.
So, the first level is this – This would be the problem that you would kind of present yourself with or you think that you’ve got – Panic, anxiety, depression, stress or whatever it is okay. And these are the problems that you think you’re working on and of course these problems quite quickly remit once you start to challenge them, once you start to do something useful but these are not the actual problem, these are consequences of the problem.
Level two let’s say is the problem that creates these. So, for instance it’s habitual negative thinking, it’s catastrophizing, it’s talking down, it’s talking down to yourself, it’s mind reading, it’s doing also so faulty things and strategies, it’s trying to, you know control stuff that you can’t control. These are the problems that create these things. These are the things that you kind of perceive as being the problem but actually they’re created by these things. But once you start to challenge these they sort of go away a little bit more, right? And they say, “well what do I need to work on, what do I do?”
Well, of course that brings us to level three now. Level three causes level two, level two causes level one, and so these are the things in principle that you need to work on for the whole of your life to have a happy experience, right? So, I just listed a few. For instance, whenever you avoid something you’re basically telling your brain that this thing is dangerous, risky, not good for me, therefore, I need to avoid it and most avoidance is actually kind of reductive. It actually perpetuates the problem.
So, think about this, what do you avoid in your life? If there’s anything that you avoid in your life by avoiding it you’re actually making level two more likely to occur which makes level one lot more likely to occur. I mean a big element in panic and anxiety, and even the depression is avoidance. Okay, you’re using force control strategies.
Force Control Strategies
Well, force control strategies are things that you’re trying to control the external world because it’s something that you can do. For instance, I mean the example that I always give is that you might have a very clean house because it makes you feel good about yourself but your self-esteem genuinely cannot be determined by whether your house is clean or not or you might try to please people because you don’t want to be criticized but the truth might be the fact you do a perfectly good job and no one’s going to criticize you anyway.
So, this is a counterproductive strategy, using false controls a kind of a director of strategy, avoiding things is kind of a doctor, being self-critical. I’m stupid, we’re not very clever, well, I just can’t do that, right? You’re basically telling yourself that you’re not good enough; you accept your problems as being legitimate things, right?
What’s going to happen if you’re a worrier
Most psychological problems are invalid. They do not belong in your life but if you accept them then you’re busy telling your brain that these are legitimate things and in principle you’re saying I have a problem rather than I am NOT the problem but I have a problem.
You’re saying I am the problem and I say sorry. And worry you know, oh well, yeah I just worry. I’m a worrier. Well, if you’re a worrier what’s going to happen is you’re going to do a lot of negative thinking and catastrophizing and that’s going to make you anxious and panicky.
So, these are clinical problems and we don’t want these in our life. But, these are the consequence of these many other things. If you don’t want these in your life then you have to look at these things and these are the kinds of things that anyone does to some degree but when you do them too much it causes these other things to come into existence.
So, these are the things that we need to be always working on. These are the things that we need to be always being aware of and kind of paying attention to.
Take Care of the Little Things
Now, if you want to have a happy experience and if you want to kind of you know have a successful life where you’re not bothered by things like worry about panic, anxiety, depression and stress. You have to take care of the little things.
Remember that old phrase, “Don’t sweat the small stuff because it’s all small stuff”, right? Well, you have to take care of those little processes that cause these bigger problems and it doesn’t take much time and it doesn’t take much effort but it needs a little bit of awareness to just go okay hang on I’m catastrophizing or hang on I’m worried, or hang on I’m avoiding that motorway when actually motorway driving is not any more dangerous any kind of driving.
Start To Feel Better
Okay, so we have to bring our awareness to this. So, I wanted just to show you those three levels so that you’ll see that once you start working through Mood Control, Panic Pit Stop and you start to feel a bit better we then move down to the next level and the next level until we kinda negate, we defeat the processes that cause the bigger problems that kind of really you know derail and disrupt our lives.
So, I hope you find that interesting the levels, the sort of the three levels that are outlined here are valid and apply to every aspect of life, business, entrepreneurship, relationships bringing up children, everything. There are always levels and one level causes the next level up until we get to the point where the top level is a real serious problem that we have a hard job coming back from. Okay, so hope you found it interesting
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