CBT therapy helps dismantle borders

Did you know that you can use CBT therapy to dismantle borders? Let’s start at the beginning…

Keeping your borders up

Every border is porous to some degree. The border of North and South Korea is probably the most patrolled and guarded but even then people can move across it if they are willing to take the risk. There is a correlation between how closely borders are guarded and how motivated governments are to keep out ideas, goods and services. I often think that contamination with new ideas is the thing most feared by repressive governments.

We also have borders

Humans also have borders, although we often call them boundaries. Your skin is the first one encountered by germs, but even your skin is porous. It lets all sorts of things in and out but only those things that are sanctioned by your body as ‘not challenging’.

We also have psychological boundaries or borders. We actively seek to keep out ideas, information and knowledge that is incompatible with who we think we are. And the more challenging a piece of information is the more we seek to ban it from entry into our cognitive system.

Just think for a moment if we abolished our psychological borders for a while. What would happen? Well, we would be exposed to new ideas and knowledge. We could appraise this new information and judge it for validity and usefulness then we could reject it or accept it as required.

We would not place a blanket ban on new information but would exercise a careful evaluation based upon utility. Perhaps this exercise in evaluation may lead to changes in what we understand and how we do things.

This is not mere idle speculation. Every client seen in CBT therapy for a depression treatment or an anxiety therapy has a strong border patrol that actively seeks to hold the border; both keeping information in and rejecting new information. Struggling to keep things in to maintain the status quo takes a lot of effort particularly if what is trapped in is unpleasant, damaging and negative. You may wonder why anyone would put effort to keeping this kind of thing inside but that is the nature or borders. What is inside is not questioned and what is outside is rejected.

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After CBT therapy has started and the borders are slowly weakened and dismantled people always realise that their border guards did not need to be so tough, maybe not really needed after all.  The things kept in were illusions of safety and the things kept out were only normal reality and so no real threat at all.

When the border guards are largely made redundant the whole ecology of the body works more easily and the whole land is more at peace with itself.

Please watch my film below for a further explanation on why borders are so heavily guarded.

I made it on the border between Canada and the USA. If you can watch to the end you can see me fly over the frozen border between these countries (called The Thousand Islands) and see a small ice breaker as it ploughs between the lands.

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Learn more about why Mood Control could be the best treatment for depression and anxiety…

One of the aspects of Mood Control which I think marks it out as the best treatment for depression and anxiety is the Recovery Roadmap it helps you develop.  

Through this Roadmap, you will target your specific problems, and begin to recover from depression, anxiety disorders, panic attacks, and stress.

It encourages your daily recording of depression and anxiety scores, and in so doing, increases control over them.

It uses over 200 video films to show you in detail how to use the knowledge and skills to change your life through the best treatment for depression and anxiety.

It is not limited by a narrow knowledge focus on a specific problem. 

Psychological problems

Modern understanding of psychological problems shows very clearly that issues such as depression, stress, anxiety disorders, and panic attacks share commonalities of presentation that can be treated in similar ways. 

Therefore, when you apply the right techniques, it functions as a depression treatment and anxiety treatment at the same time.

Active Self Help is based on modern scientific understanding of how to treat mental health problems, and all of this knowledge and expertise is permanently available to you via the Mood Control membership portal.  

Philosophy of Active Self-Help

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The philosophy of active self-help is that progress happens when three things come together:

  1. First, you need to be motivated to start, and then encouraged to carry on with personal change.  You need to understand and accept where you are and desire progress towards your goals.  You need to have a working model of the origins of the problem and what keeps it in place despite your best efforts to defeat it.

  2. Second, you need to understand what you can do to change the problem. CBT therapy is your treatment base. There are very clear and very specific psychological processes that need to change to lift depression and anxiety problems. This links with step one where you will of gained a solid understanding of why you have the problem.

  3. Third, you need have tools and techniques to enable you to challenge and change the problem.  You need to have high quality materials that allow you to interact over longer periods with the solution and have strategies as you learn new life habits.  Real change takes time.  Active self-help brings these fundamental aspects of personal change together in a unique interactive manner.

Mood Control will lead you through the fundamentals of how to have good mood and be free of fear.  You will receive instruction that will remain relevant throughout your life.  Mood Control is an important and useful tool that you can use whenever you need to.  The principles of active self-help and Mood Control are your keys to a brighter future. Learn more about Mood Control

You can access the Mood Control CBT System for just $1 for four weeks. If at the end of the four weeks you decide to continue your subscription then all of the knowledge and experience that I have used to treat countless patients face-to-face will be yours for only $58 a month.

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Mood Control could be the best treatment for depression and anxiety that you’ll ever try

As you read every word of this page, you will discover why the breakthrough Mood Control CBT System might just be the best treatment for depression and anxiety that you’ve ever tried.Dr Purves teaches CBT

Imagine what it would be like to be able to experience life to the full again… feeling happy, relaxed, hopeful, energetic, even blissful.

These feelings can be a reality for you.

You probably know that depression and anxiety are wide-spread problems. Throughout my career as a psychologist and CBT therapist I’ve treated many patients, like you, suffering from depression and anxiety.

 

Fact. There are approximately 121,000,000 people suffering from depression throughout the world.

If you’re reading this page then you probably know what it feels like to be depressed or anxious. 

Burdened. Defeated. Despairing. Exhausted. Miserable. Negative.

  • When you’re depressed you can feel constantly tired and drained
  • When you’re depressed you can feel sad
  • When you’re depressed you can feel numb
  • When you’re depressed you can feel completely detached from the world 
  • When you’re depressed you can feel that everything is hopeless

Are any of these feelings familiar to you?  stress, attention options, stress busting, stress management, survival,

“If you know someone who’s depressed please resolve never to ask them why. Depression isn’t a straightforward response to a bad situation, depression just is, like the weather.”

Actor Stephen Fry, Depression Alliance

Anxiety can be just as debilitating.

  • When you’re anxious you can be consumed with feelings of dread
  • When you’re anxious you can find it impossible to concentrate
  • When you’re anxious you can feel jumpy and irritable

Anxiety can also manifest itself physically.

Before your anxiety was diagnosed you may have been to your doctor or the hospital more than once feeling unable to breathe, with a pounding heart, experiencing profuse sweating, dizziness, headaches, diarrhoea, insomnia, tremors or twitches.

Anxiety can affect anyone at anytime and its effects on your life can be devastating. 

 

“I was just kind of immobilized by it. I didn’t want to go to my friends’ houses or hang out with anybody and nobody really understood.”

Actress Emma Stone, Vogue Magazine, on panic attacks 

 

“I still do get terribly nervous, and that’s partly due to the fact I think too much and over-analyze things. I’ll start worrying about my parents or my dog, and I’ll picture him opening the window of my apartment and falling out, even though I can’t get that thing open myself.”

Actress Amanda Seyfried, Glamour Magazine, on panic attacks 

There are many different treatments available and I know that you’re looking for the best treatment for depression and anxiety so please read on…

Antidepressants are commonly prescribed but the bottom line is that depression is a psychological problem and therefore a medical solution is not always the best option.

It’s a fact that once you stop taking your antidepressant meds you will have a 60% chance of relapsing within two years.

That’s a scary thought, isn’t it.

BUT studies have proven that if you treat depression as a psychological problem then your chance of relapsing drops to around 30% within two years.

Now, let these numbers sink in for a minute…

… So how do you go about treating anxiety or depression as a psychological problem?

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is one way.

In fact I’d go so far as to say it’s the best treatment for depression and anxiety and I’ll shout it from the roof tops. I’ve given interviews to the media and talks all over the world about the benefits of this psychological treatment.

CBT therapy is a talking therapy that can help you challenge negative thoughts, feelings and behaviours. It’s a highly successful treatment for anxiety and depression. 

It’s been massively researched.

Where can you get CBT therapy?

There are dedicated CBT therapists but the problem is that demand far exceeds supply meaning you could have a long wait for an appointment.

If you decide to skip the queues and pay privately you’ll find that CBT therapist appointments can be expensive.

In the UK, for example, you can expect to pay £40-£100 per private session and in the USA CBT can typically cost more than $100 per session.

There is only one solution

The Mood Control CBT System

Imagine finding the best treatment for depression and anxiety. Imagine what it would be like if you could begin to overcome depression and anxiety cost effectively right now. 

“Mood control has really helped me see the bigger picture of why I behave in certain ways. But almost more importantly, as an online course, it offers manageable tools and tricks to help me change some of the faulty thinking I’ve fallen prey to. Overall Mood Control offers support, motivation and inspirational examples of how to move out of depression, anxiety and low mood, all of which is helping me move my life forward.”

With the Mood Control CBT System you can begin treatment right away.

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This sought-after membership program is a comprehensive CBT system that delivers the full personalised CBT therapy experience straight to you in your home via the internet on your personal Mood Control dashboard.

You don’t even have to change out of your pyjamas to begin your 13 week program of scheduled sessions which include relapse prevention. You just need to have access to a computer.

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You’ll also gain immediate access to over 200 audio-visual resources and a wealth of downloadable material.

And each week you’ll be sent bonuses.

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I’ve already seen what this system has done for numerous patients. 

The results are staggering.

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“I have worked through all of Dr Purves’ excellent Mood Control sessions. I found the material extremely helpful. Time and again the practical explanations and suggestions would strike a real chord with me raising my mood and giving me insight and tools to use on an ongoing basis.”

You can access the Mood Control CBT System for just $1 for four weeks. Because what better way for me to prove that the Mood Control System really is as good as I say it is? What better way for you to decide if this is the best treatment for depression and anxiety that you’ve ever tried?

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That’s $58 for four therapy sessions and so much more. 

This amount is just a small fraction of the cost of face-to-face CBT therapy and you can start your sessions right now.

As you can see everything you need for your recovery is included in this complete set of CBT coaching sessions: 

Mood Control CBT Coaching Sessions
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Session Ten – Attention Bias
Session Eleven – Negative Thinking
Session Twelve – Self Esteem
Session Thirteen – Relapse Prevention

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Is Mood Control really the best treatment for depression and anxiety?

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Remember, changing your life is a journey. I wish you a good journey.

I can’t wait to hear how you’re getting on.

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Only the Dead Fish go with the Flow

This is the first of a three part series called, Only the Dead Fish Go with the Flow, that helps explain how human problems come into being. In this film I explore the negative consequences of going with the flow, like the dead fish, and how it ultimately leads to a loss of control. 

I then go onto explain what happens when you move from a comfort zone to a discomfort zone, with common consequences being low mood, depression, anxiety and stress.

The Dead Fish

Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT Therapy)

Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) is a very effective strategy for helping you go against the flow, so that you’re not one of the dead fish, once again to regain control of your life and thereby helping you move from your discomfort zone back into your comfort zone.

It is often very surprising for people when they realise the consequences of going with the flow but even more so when they see how little effort it really takes to go against the flow. 

If you suffer depression, anxiety or stress then you have probably been going with the flow like the dead fish. 

The text from the film is here in case you prefer being able to read it.

Hi I’m Dr David Purves

Have you ever wondered how human problems such as stress, anxiety and depression come about?

If you have you’re not alone. 

Virtually every client I’ve ever had in my consulting room has said, "I didn’t think this would happen to me. How did this happen?"

Well if you want to know the answer to that question stay tuned.

Some years ago a client said to me only the dead fish go with the flow which I thought was a very profound statement. 

Only the dead fish go with the flow … and that brings me to the River Thames here in Berkshire where I live.

The River Thames

The River Thames originates in Gloucestershire and goes through some counties, through Berkshire, through London and down in to the sea.

Now, the non tidal part of the Thames always goes the same way. It never goes the other way. If you had a boat on the River Thames and you went with the flow like the dead fish you’d have no control over where you went. You wouldn’t be able to stop and start. You wouldn’t be able to have any control over your destination, like the dead fish. 

To gain control you have to go ever so slightly against the flow and then the rudders and propeller can bite and you can steer and you can do whatever you want.

So the first part of the answer to the question of, “how did I get here” is that going with the flow gives you no control over the destination that you’ll end up in or the quality of your journey.

From Dead Fish to Boiling Frogs

Now a client, a different client, said to me a few years ago, “If you get a frog and you put it in a pan of cold water and you put the pan of cold water on a cooker  and you very slowly heat the water, the frog will stay in the water until it eventually boils to death. Alternatively if you put the frog straight into the boiling water it will jump straight out.”

Now why might a frog stay in the boiling water until it boils to death? What’s the mechanism by which that could happen?

Well, frogs and cats and pretty much all animals and humans have change neurons in the brain.

Now change neurons are designed to notice change on a moment by moment basis. They’re really interested in contrast.

So if you were to put a frog in the water and heat it up very slowly the change from comfort zone to discomfort zone is so slow that the change neurons don’t fire and the frog doesn’t recognise that it’s moving inextricably from a comfort zone to a discomfort zone. And isn’t that the part of the answer to the question of how do human problems occur?

Comfort Zones and Discomfort Zones

We start off in a comfort zone and we say yes that’s OK. I’ll cope, it’s not too bad. But slowly, as the process of change occurs we move from our comfort zone to our discomfort zone. All of a sudden you wake up and say, “How did I get here? I don’t like this at all! Ahhhhhh!”

Now if you find yourself in a discomfort zone you feel low, depressed, anxious or stressed. You’re going to be underestimating your strengths and resources and you’re going to be overestimating your faults and failings.

The present experience that you’re having is not going to be something that you’re really enjoying  and the future just does not look attractive at all.

If you’re anxious you’re feeling unsafe and vulnerable. You’re probably putting quite a lot of effort into trying to stay safe but what that means is you’re squeezing your life down until you have a much much smaller living space that feels a bit more like a comfort zone but actually you’re doing less than you used to do. You’re pushing yourself out less than you did before and you’re actually restricting your life by a substantial extent.

If you’re stressed, the tasks and the things that you need to achieve far exceed your perception of your ability to achieve them; you don’t have enough time, not enough resources to do things adequately. 

So if you find yourself in a discomfort zone what can you do about it?

Well traditionally some form of psychotherapy has always been good to help you to go against the flow and to move back from the discomfort zone towards the comfort zone.

Of course not everyone wants to access face-to-face therapy. Not everyone wants to embark on it. Not everyone wants to go through that process.

If you did, however, cognitive behaviour therapy or CBT therapy is the treatment of choice. It’s what the Government recommends. It’s what the National Institute for Health and Clinical Excellence recommends but CBT therapy is relatively scarce in some parts of the world. It’s expensive and it’s not something you might want to embark on.

For that reason I’ve created the Mood Control CBT System. Mood Control enables you to have the benefits of CBT in your life via your own computer. Mood Control delivers a CBT coaching course to you wherever you are in the world.

Now, I’ll be telling you a little bit more about Mood Control in a later film. This film is part of a series. In the next film I’m going to offer you a very strange thought.

Your brain is not your friend.

Your brain will actually create goals that you wouldn’t sign up for and then it can motivate you to achieve those goals.

Your brain can create anxiety and stress. It can create those experiences for you and then keep you trapped in them.

Well, if you want to know how that happens. If you want to know the means, the mechanism for how that occurs, make sure you watch the next film.

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I hope that you’ve found this film interesting and potentially thought provoking. Whatever problem you struggle with – depression, anxiety, stress, panic, OCD, generalised anxieties – it’s likely that the benefits of CBT therapy will reduce the burden of the problem you have and potentially take you all the way back from the discomfort zone in to your comfort zone.

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Creative Imagination

Ae you looking for a depression and anxiety treatment? If so, you’re not alone. Depression and anxiety problems are so common in society that every human being, including those who are not anxious or down, must share common psychological processes with those who are anxious or down. Any Depression Treatment or Anxiety Therapy always has to address these issues sooner or later.

The ability to become anxious or down must be built into us. There is no other explanation for this phenomenon. I have worked with many hundreds of clients over the years and I have always tried to see the common features  of clients’ problems. Because common features always reveal something of the basic mechanisms of any problem. And understanding the basic mechanism is really useful if you want to create solutions.     The act of Imagination is perhaps one of the most creative experiences we can have. It is powerful stuff. Imagination can motivate you to invent a life changing tool, but it can also take you down to the depths of despair. Imagination can be dangerous if not properly seen for what it is: a raw power that can be harnessed or ignored. Harness it and it can serve you well, giving you a lifetime of interest and engagement. Ignore it and you are at its mercy. It can destroy you.

This film explains a little more about Creative Imagination.  

 

In any Depression and Anxiety treatment which involves therapy a therapist will almost always find elements of problematic imagination. Let me give you two examples that are pretty representative of those commonly seen in a CBT Therapy clinic. The first is a key component of the group of Anxiety Problems focused on social phobia or social anxiety. The sufferer will usually have a powerful set of mental images that show them being embarrassed or exposed as a fool, or a fraud in public. They are being ridiculed and made to look weak and helpless. The use of their imagination to create anxiety provoking mental images that while having never happened nevertheless ‘capture’ their deepest fears about themselves is very damaging and limiting. The emotions evoked by these very negative mental images is so strong that it seems to make sense to avoid situations where these fantasies may come to pass.

The second example will most commonly be seen in the CBT Therapy clinic for a Depression Treatment. This is often represented as an inner dialog where the sufferer imagines themselves in a conversation with another person and in this they are being criticized, found to be at fault and failing to live up to the standards expected of them. The power of this fantasy conversation is in the emotion invested into it by the imagination. The most troubling and damaging emotions are evoked, and this often makes the sufferer feel helpless to act in any positive way.Both of these examples are very commonly seen in many depression and anxiety treatment settings. It is fundamental to the success of the CBT Therapy that they be challenged rigorously.  The sheer power of these fantasy products of the imagination cannot be underestimated. The good news is that they can be challenged successfully and the negative emotions they create consigned to history. In this process the sufferer can experience a freedom from anxiety and depression perhaps never before dreamed of.

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Use CBT Therapy to reduce depression

A good goal in life is to develop the ability to think accurately about things. This is harder than you might imagine but all effort is repaid ten-fold. It is a goal of every Anxiety Therapy or Depression Treatment within CBT Therapy that you become clearer on what is accurate in your life and what is inaccurate.

The alternative to accurate thinking is inaccurate thinking and that leads to depression and Anxiety Problems, so let’s be clear… the stakes are high.

CBT Therapy

The most effective therapeutic approach for treating low mood and clinical depression is called Cognitive Behavior Therapy or CBT Therapy.

CBT Therapy is a structured approach to working on some of the better defined and understood aspects of depression and anxiety. There is good evidence that it is both an effective and an empowering form of therapy because you are an active participant in helping yourself.

Let’s offer an example of the power of negative thought to frighten and depress you. Imagine that you have to speak in front of a large group of people who you think are knowledgeable about your subject. You believe that your performance is important. It matters to you how well you do. Depending upon your experience of this kind of activity, your reaction might range from excitement to absolute terror.

What would make you feel terrified?

Let us assume that you are rather more on the terror side. What would make you feel terrified?

It is easy to imagine that because you believe the talk to be important, you are also aware of every possible negative outcome that you can imagine. And, it can now feel like anxiety problems are leaking into your life ruining some of the things you hold dearest.

Here are some examples:

I will make a fool of my self.

People will know I am a fraud.

People will see I do not know enough.

I will lose control and panic while I am speaking.

People will laugh at me.

If you believed that any of these were true, or even likely, how would you feel?

You would probably feel a mixture of fear, shame, guilt, despair, helplessness, panic, anger, anxiety and a strong desire to run away and hide.

You have not even given the talk, but all of these emotions are the result of how you imagine it might go.

Self-defeating and damaging beliefs

In low mood and depression it is very common to hold a series of self-defeating and damaging beliefs about yourself. These beliefs detract from your ability to enjoy your life.

If they are very strong they can even make your very survival problematic. Many of the negative beliefs you hold about yourself have never been demonstrated, neither is there any evidence to support them.Suppose you gave a successful talk 99 times and one time you gave a poor talk.Which would be the most memorable and which would you think most accurately reflected who you are?

We reckon its the one bad talk.

Free from fear

All of your life you have probably had normal everyday experiences. It is very rare for the negative beliefs you hold about yourself to have been demonstrated in reality.

They reside in your mind and direct you to feel bad, but there is probably little or no evidence that they reflect reality.

CBT Therapy and more specifically depression treatment or anxiety therapy is a means of accessing these damaging negative beliefs and finding ways of understanding their actions and then testing them against reality.  This process is easy to describe but in reality it is a profound re-working of the most fundamental negative beliefs you hold about yourself, the world and your future.

A Depression Treatment that really gets to grips with helping you to challenge your deepest negative self beliefs can literally change your life. Likewise an Anxiety Therapy that frees you from fear is a great gift to be cherished. When clear and open reality baths your deepest held negative beliefs this can be a great relief and is definitely a life changing experience that is worth seeking out.

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How to change some part of your life… do it yourself depression and anxiety treatments

When considering do it yourself depression and anxiety treatments remember – Right Action Equals Right Outcome.

Challenging depression, stress and anxiety problems requires a vigilant determined attitude.

Change mechanisms

The problem, in any situation where you want to change something is that you need to find enough opportunities to exercise the change mechanisms.

Imagine you wanted to improve on any game, but let’s choose golf for the moment. If you want to improve, you have to get out there on the green and practice. Both in actual games, which are probably more pressured situations, and on the practice pitch. Moreover you have to practice all of the different shots you may use, such as a drive, a pitch or a put. It is further complicated by having to practice with all of the different clubs in your bag. This scenario can be expanded to include any skilled activity from learning to write as a child, through to driving a car or flying a plane.

Human relationships are are a further category where practice is likely to be important. Most people go through a series of girlfriends  and/or boyfriends before they find someone they can live with for the longer term.

Of course relationships do break down, often because people change but also the world changes us in many ways that are hard to see. If you are fortunate, and you approach the whole enterprise with a sense of adventure, you acquire the necessary practice in relationships when you are young and overall it does not cause too much trouble to you and your family.

Depression and low mood are very serious problems.

Active Self Help for Depression and Anxiety

With my Active Self Help for depression and anxiety approach the emphasis is that you have all of the resources to adequately treat and cure yourself, but you may not have the resourcefulness to do it.

Really you may not know what to do nor how to do it. This is where the vast quantity of opportunity that the world constantly throws at you plays its part.

You need opportunities to practice being different in the world to get really good at it.

Imagine if you would one of those old computer games where your cursor which looks like a small basket is at the bottom on the screen and bricks are constantly falling from the top of the screen. To be good at the game all you have to do is to catch as many bricks as you can with your basket cursor. Well I see opportunities for changing your life as those bricks.

Let me complicate the game a little more. The bricks are evil and you only destroy them by catching them. If you don’t catch them they go onto destroy your town, region and eventually your country then  they go onto destroy your town, region and eventually your country then the world.

You have to catch the bricks to survive!

Now let us change those bricks into negative thoughts.

Each negative thought that escapes capture destroys a little more of you, your life and eventually your world. There is now a sad part, but it is changeable. The world offers you, and always has, many many opportunities every day to catch those bricks and stop them destroying you.

Did you know you were even playing this game?

Who told you there even was a game anyway?

It is similar to the halting stop start series of relationships many people have before they settle down, if they do. Who helped you with that…cyour peers were equally confused and yes you may have been able to talk about some stuff with them but probably not the really deep stuff about how you felt about yourself.

I am prepared to bet that you kept that deep inside. Probably because you felt a real need to protect yourself from hurt. It seems incredibly that we managed at all. All stumbling around in a process that is largely hidden and silent, it is a good job that it was also fun at times.

You are in this game, whether you recognise it or not.

Try this exercise…

Every day negative self destructive thoughts flow in a constant stream to attack your mood and sense of security and safety. If you find that hard to believe, simply take one hour of your normal day and put a mark on a slip of paper every time you think or feel or say anything negative about yourself.

I have had clients do this exercise and while it is hard to keep focused for an hour it is do-able. What I have found is that people seem able to recognise an average of between 3 – 7 negative events in that hour; (let us decide on 4 average per hour) Of course you will only ever recognise the conscious events not those that slip under the radar of your awareness. If you think about the waking day as 16 hours that gives 64 bricks that go through each day. This yields 448 bricks for the entire week.

This month is 1,792 and the year is 21,504.

Now I hope you can see two things.

First, I hope you can see why these negative thought bricks destroy you, your life and your world.

Secondly, I hope you will see that the world also provides masses of opportunities to change your life for the better. Remember, it is only the bricks that get through that destroy you.

Those you catch are defeated. They are rendered useless.

Catch it… Challenge it… Change it

I have coined the term: Catch it …challenge it…change it

This is tool is one of the very useful do it yourself depression and anxiety treatments that you can use to deal with the bricks.

Every time you recognise a negative thought, catch it, challenge it for truth and accuracy (not how you feel, that is no guide at all) and change it. Make every negative thought account for itself. Every one you catch that you previously would have missed is a success.

Depression is what missing a lot of bricks brings you.

Catch the bricks and change things for the better.

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